Understanding Suicidal Thoughts


Suicidal thoughts can come from many different places and can be caused by a variety of elements. If you’re having thoughts about suicide, it is common to feel shame or worry that there is something wrong with you. Thoughts can pop into our mind without warning. There is no need to feel shame and having such thoughts does not mean there is something wrong with you.

Sometimes suicidal thoughts are drawn from fleeting emotions that are short-lived. If we find ourselves in a situation where we feel trapped, angry or uncomfortable. In these situations, it is normal to briefly think about taking your own life. They're quite common and as long as they're not too intense or persistent, you shouldn’t be overly worried. However, if the suicidal thoughts begin to spiral or you find yourself obsessing about your thoughts, you should talk to someone about your feelings.

Suicidal thoughts are often a response to wanting to free ourselves from some form of pain or to lift a perceived sense of burden. Life can feel hopeless and we can feel that we do not have value or that people would be better off without us. We always have value and there are always people whose life will forever be worse off if you are not in it. Suicide leaves a devastating impact on families, friends, and communities.

Suicidal thoughts may also stem from a lack of control. In situations where there appears to be no viable options, suicidal thoughts may present themselves as a solution. When we are in the midst of a crisis, it is hard to think clearly. Try to avoid making major decisions during periods of major distress. Even if it appears hopeless, there is always another way.

Talking through the problem can help. Speaking to someone about how you feel can help you to break the cycle. Hearing someone you care about is having such thoughts or having them yourself can be alarming but try to stay calm. If you’re concerned you or someone you care about is in immediate danger, call the emergency services.


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